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make a moveMost of my major relationships (3 out of my 5 boyfriends) involved me going after the guy. Sometimes guys are too shy to make the first move, so if you’re semi-confident he’s into you even just a little (and even if you only want to hook up with him), just go for it.

It’s as simple as saying, “I’m into you.” It’s never failed me. If you want to be less obvious, just be flirty and gauge his reactions. My main point is, though, that guys are sometimes too shy to make the first move.

Don’t be afraid to be ballsy and go after what you want.

Even if you get rejected (not likely if you’re reading non-verbal clues accurately), you’ll at least gain the confidence of having tried which will make you…

Good for the next one!

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This sums up my time with “Boy With No Shoes.”

We had a great story of how we very randomly met on the street, and the chemistry that followed. We enjoyed a fun, sweet, wild year-long on-off roller-coaster ride that I thought would turn into something more serious. I’ll never forget our moments. I made the most of them, because I knew they would be fleeting.

I so wanted to love you “Lawyer Boy,” but you weren’t ready, and neither was I. Now we are both in committed relationships, but I’ll always wonder what could have been.

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So my bf had the idea to have a New Year’s Eve party—at my place.

I thought: Cool because I have to work that day, I don’t care for the holiday or to travel, and it’s cold. But if everyone comes to me, fantastic! And this hostess has not ever hosted a party at her current home!

My roommate got on board and the three of us began planning.  And I think, great. Me, party-planner, well this wasn’t my idea so I don’t have to do all of the planning and hostess work and I won’t care as much if it’s awful.

But it was anything but. We thought oh—like 12 people may actually be free. But the day before, the number had climbed to 30+, and then 40+ ended up coming.

It is so fun when you have help prepping for a party, because it’s an exhausting amount of work if you want to include tons of personal touches, a la moi.

So the men focused on the man power: creating a stocked bar, moving furniture, and driving to PA for $200 worth of fireworks while I focused on decorations, party favors, blankets, balloons, air mattresses, pillows, pajamas, toothbrushes, every beauty product you can think of and goodie bag gifts. Oh yes, and the tapas menu.

The day after the affair, I thought what didn’t happen? Nothing I can think of.

Dancing, debauchery at its finest, huge fireworks show on the roof, inappropriate comments/confessions, tons of alcohol and fancy food, midnight toast actually was ready and poured for everyone on time for countdown, green things, white things, cop who lives downstairs made people do shots with him and puked in our sink (and here I thought we’d have a noise complaint or an arrest for lighting fireworks off the roof) glitter, glow, live music after dance party, and everyone (who wanted to) got laid!

I call that Succe$$!

And now all I hear is: When are you having your next party?!

Stay tuned. This old soul is still recovering 😉

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There will always be the bigger new best better thing, and humans have to be prepared for that. You are so replaceable!

This means not resting on your fifteen minutes and working harder more each day rather than slacking off and resting on your laurals.

You must constantly adapt to change and the market around you. Review, reassess, revalue, reemphasize, rework, revamp.

 

Good luck this year!
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relationships

Nothing is as cookie cutter as you try to make it look on your social media sites. And that’s okay. It’s so refreshing to find humans that actually speak the truth! I want to relate to you, not feel like I’m some dysfunctional alien (which I most definitely am regardless).

We all have problems, and I find that being an unfiltered open book about my life with my friends is refreshing and feels so much better than holding back and hiding things with a smile.

I grew up as a very private person and was taught to be mum, so perhaps I am rebelling. But seriously: You don’t have to put on a perfect face all of the time and pretend everything is all roses. Because it rarely is.

So perhaps your man was rude and you punched him in the chest, or you can’t get pregnant or he has a gambling, drinking or drug problem, or you do. Or you are doing all of the work in the relationship/in the house/for the child. Or you can’t agree on the simplest things like how the toilet paper roll should hang or bigger things like familial backgrounds that clash. Or you have fantasies about other people. Guess what? We are all human. You are not alone.

intimacy

How to have amazing sex:

♥ Arrive at his house in a satin skirt, stilettos, rhinestone heels, a silk top, and La Perla bra before he gets home from work.

♥ Enter living room when lover/boyfriend/husband arrives. Say hi but otherwise ignore him.

♥ Prepare for fingers, hands, mouth action.

♥ Get stripped and taken more advantage of.

 

Enjoy.

 

Magic eye

Cheating (relationship-wise) most often involves having sex with someone other than your significant other and is usually just physical for the cheater (sorry, cheatee).

But there is another type of cheating that is not physical (at least, not yet) that can somehow be more damaging to your relationship: Emotional Cheating. It’s there—an attraction, something—but not acted upon because of rational thoughts, and yet perhaps because it is not acted upon, it can ironically lead to something more major than the mistress enticing your husband. It causes the break-up or divorce.

Say your partner slips up and f’s someone else one time. It’s purely physical, and it’s over. Fling partners usually don’t win, even if they do temporarily. Cheaters like the thrill of what they can’t have, and once they are free to have it, that sizzle can fade. Now, imagine your lover falls in love with someone else, without exactly acting on it—at least not until it ends up unraveling your relationship.

The person you were in love with is convinced that he or she was meant to be with someone else, this new exciting person that they are drawn to because of sexual chemistry/crazy attraction, similar interests, or proximity as innocent as running in the same circles or around the same office. Watch out.

What if this is you? Even if you never act on your feelings, they can damage your current relationship. Yes, sometimes you are dissatisfied with what you have. But sometimes, you are fairly content and solid, and then damn, someone comes along that is just so completely awesome and promising and more your speed. You totally click and you feel completely like yourself and at ease with that other person.

You start questioning your own relationship. When you find someone you like more, and especially because he’s off-limits, you start finding more and more flaws in your man and think about the potential happiness you may be missing out on.

Sex can be just sex. You needed it. Strong attraction though, before any sex gets in the way, can cause far more damage, and even more when sex does get in the way. Emotional cheating is the worst kind of cheating there is.

The sex-cheat can be the kid-in-the-candy-shop thing. The emotional cheat means your partner is connecting on a different, deeper level with someone else.

I wonder if the emotional cheat is harder on females than the sex cheat, and if the sex cheat is harder on males than the emotional cheat because of the way we are differently wired, but that deems an entirely new post.

Let me know your thoughts.

P.S. My personal experience with this is here.


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