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People hate me because not only do I expose the truth about them, I am honest about the Devil I am. Take it or leave it. I believe in being upfront and open because I don’t like to waste time on liars or waste time on lying.

Yes, sometimes the truth stabs but I do not believe in sugar-coating and I do believe in calling people out on bad behavior. I equally accept people calling me out on mine because the things I say are shocking and sometimes offensive, even though I don’t intend them to come across that way.

I have always been honest about my shortcomings, so how about before you lie to me, you take a good look in the mirror and be honest with yourself?

Who are you?

You all know who I am. And I am not always fun and pleasant. I am loyal, but mostly unforgiving when you’ve crossed my path after I’ve fought for you. But now you fight against me? Good riddance.

I am very particular and protective about the people in my circle and quite thought I had the skill down, but there are still jerks in disguise that not only drain me, but make me look like a jerk in my loud self-defense. Oh, you’re the quiet one in front of friends so you are good.

NO. Just because everyone else doesn’t hear what you say to me doesn’t mean that I didn’t hear it.

But all my neighbors do hear you in the middle of the night as well as hear their walls shake and it’s embarrassing for me to even defend you because everyone is so worried about me. Just trying to live a normal life. And it really is awesome without the toxic people.

If you own yourself and your ish from jump, it’s someone else’s fault if he or she gets involved. If you lie about ish from jump, it’s your own g-d fault that that crashed and burned all over you.

#justsaying #learnedalotoflifelessonsataveryyoungage #nobullshit #willnottakecrapwithoutafight

Just saying.

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Cheating (relationship-wise) most often involves having sex with someone other than your significant other and is usually just physical for the cheater (sorry, cheatee).

But there is another type of cheating that is not physical (at least, not yet) that can somehow be more damaging to your relationship: Emotional Cheating. It’s there—an attraction, something—but not acted upon because of rational thoughts, and yet perhaps because it is not acted upon, it can ironically lead to something more major than the mistress enticing your husband. It causes the break-up or divorce.

Say your partner slips up and f’s someone else one time. It’s purely physical, and it’s over. Fling partners usually don’t win, even if they do temporarily. Cheaters like the thrill of what they can’t have, and once they are free to have it, that sizzle can fade. Now, imagine your lover falls in love with someone else, without exactly acting on it—at least not until it ends up unraveling your relationship.

The person you were in love with is convinced that he or she was meant to be with someone else, this new exciting person that they are drawn to because of sexual chemistry/crazy attraction, similar interests, or proximity as innocent as running in the same circles or around the same office. Watch out.

What if this is you? Even if you never act on your feelings, they can damage your current relationship. Yes, sometimes you are dissatisfied with what you have. But sometimes, you are fairly content and solid, and then damn, someone comes along that is just so completely awesome and promising and more your speed. You totally click and you feel completely like yourself and at ease with that other person.

You start questioning your own relationship. When you find someone you like more, and especially because he’s off-limits, you start finding more and more flaws in your man and think about the potential happiness you may be missing out on.

Sex can be just sex. You needed it. Strong attraction though, before any sex gets in the way, can cause far more damage, and even more when sex does get in the way. Emotional cheating is the worst kind of cheating there is.

The sex-cheat can be the kid-in-the-candy-shop thing. The emotional cheat means your partner is connecting on a different, deeper level with someone else.

I wonder if the emotional cheat is harder on females than the sex cheat, and if the sex cheat is harder on males than the emotional cheat because of the way we are differently wired, but that deems an entirely new post.

Let me know your thoughts.

P.S. My personal experience with this is here.

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The importance of being honest in relationships doesn’t get the press coverage that it deserves. Honesty is a tricky thing. How honest is too honest? Sometimes, you don’t want to be honest because it will hurt your girlfriend’s feelings. Her makeup seems over-the-top, let’s say. But there is a huge difference between little white lies and humongous lies like cheating, stealing, invading one’s privacy, or covering up your spotty past or financial state. Some lies have huge repercussions. Hence, the importance of being honest.

Let’s get one thing straight: If you feel the need to lie to your partner about big-deal things, then you should not be in relationship. Moving on…

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